Looking back, it's amazing how we ended up together, and how much we have gone through.
(The main purpose of this post is for me to look back in future and remember the good times, to appreciate all that he had done, and for those who have been asking how did everything happen. Please feel free to skip this post lest you feel it's very cheesy / long winded.)
The First Impression
I first met him on 25 May 2011, at Zouk.
I'm not really a clubbing kinda person. But during that period of time, I just resigned from my job, and it was the first time I wasn't working / busy since I started working part time when I was 14 years old. So, I decided to go out and enjoy life. Or rather, experience how it feels like to just "sleep all day and party all night". Feels quite fun actually, though life felt a bit meaningless and unproductive I guess.
Long story short, I met this group of people through someone I barely knew - my friend's friend. And during the second time I met them, he happened to join them too. I don't have much recollection of him from that day, except for the fact that he was there and that he looked really bored. However, I did leave an impression on him. Unfortunately, it wasn't a good impression. :( To begin with, he doesn't really like girls who clubs (in terms of girlfriend material), and the fact that I went clubbing with people I barely knew made it worse.
In my defense, I was really bored, and my only friend who I've been hanging out with, who wasn't working and free to "sleep all day and party all night", had been grounded. So when he invited me to join him at Zouk, she kept asking me to go. I would have stopped joining him after the first time, but it happened that in his clique of friends, one of them was my secondary school mate, and there were 2 other girls that were really nice. So, why not? Also, it turned out that the girls clique and the guys clique just met each other at the club too! I think he's just bias towards me! Tsk.
The Friendship
I bumped into him again on 10th June 2011, and we were not even there with the same group of people. It just happened that we saw each other at the bar, and Priscillia asked us to take a photo, so we did.
It was kinda weird.
We seem quite close, but actually we don't really know each other. Haha.
For the next few weeks, the group met up almost every night, and he was always there, doing nothing but laugh. He said it's because he's shy. Tsk!
On 22 June, he called me for the first time to ask me where and what time the few of us going running / swimming were meeting, cause nobody replied him in the whatsapp group chat. Haha. After the exercise, we all went for dinner and both of us got a parking fine for the first time of our life, and to make it worse, it’s twice in a row. -_-"
We all then headed to Butter Factory at night. It was really crowded, so he held my hand and led me through the crowd, held my shoulders and protected me from others, and when we went to eat Bak Ku Teh and it was raining, he changed seat and sheltered me from the rain.
I was like "That's quite sweet of him. I didn't know he's such a gentleman." Well, other than the fact that he kept teasing me about some other guys, and when I messaged him to ask if he sent the girls home safely, he lied about it and got me worried for a while. What an idiot!
Looking back, we both think that it should be on this night that he started being interested in me. Haha. Cause from then on, he kept surprising me with all his actions.
- He came late during one of our gathering, and while ordering his drink, he ordered hot honey lemon for me cause I was having a cough. Everyone was surprised when the waitress brought him two cups of drinks and we were even more surprised when he passed one to me.
- We were all telling him not to drink too much and asking if he was ok in the group chat when he drove to Zouk to meet his friend, but he messaged me in private to say he's ok and we ended up messaging the whole night. He then played some stupid scenario game where he asked if I will consider the different guys we know, including him. Haha. Who does that?! And then when I was hungry in the middle of the night, he offered to buy porridge and deliver to my house. Hmm.
- When the group went on a road trip to KL, he was very sweet to me throughout the whole journey, other than stealing my phone all the time, and changing his contact details for company to “Heaven :)”. -_-" He bought me herbal drink when he saw it at the shop on the way there, wanted to go out to buy me cough medicine in the middle of the night, always asking if I was ok and patting my back when I cough, and always walking beside me and making sure I’m safe. We also stayed up all night to talk in the hotel room, and talked most of the time on the way back, before I fell asleep. He was telling me that he kept holding my head against his shoulder, and was afraid I will wake up and move away.
The Chase
After the trip, he went full scale with the chase.
He paid my parking fine for me while he's paying his and didn't let me pay him for it, kept messaging me 24/7 even though he was in Phuket, always appearing at my void deck when I wasn't feeling well ("just in case you need me, I'm here.") / going for an interview ("I'll send you there, just so you don't have to go alone.") / bringing Xena to the vet for her yearly checkup and sending me to the airport and accompanying me the whole 2 nights I was there to study for my exam.
He has been really sweet, but the ultimate was when we went to Zouk one night where his friends were giving him a farewell party.
I was outside drinking with our clique when he came over to look for us.
He saw that I had to drink a lot so he secretly switched the cups and drank for me. When we went back into the club, he held on to me and drank for me whenever someone wanted me to drink. When he saw I that I was feeling really horrible, he brought me outside to rest. He stayed by my side the whole time, holding on to me and taking care of me.
I couldn't take it though, and kinda blacked out, probably cause of my medical history, so he carried me all the way to the main road to get a cab, and sent me to the nearest hospital - KK Hospital, which couldn’t do any checks on me and referred me to Tan Tock Seng Hospital. I didn’t want to go to the hospital, and I couldn’t really go home in that state, so he tried to get a hotel room for me. The taxi driver dropped us off where all the budget hotels were, but they were all full. Seeing that I was too weak to walk any further, he piggybacked me all the way till we found a hotel available at the end of the street - Ibis Hotel. He paid for it even though it was pretty expensive, and at the hotel, he was such a gentleman. He tucked me into bed and went to sleep on the couch. When I complained of dry eyes, he went out to get eye solution for me. When I complained of a headache, he went out to get panadol for me.
It's so rare to find such a gentleman nowadays.
We spent the following week together spending as much time as possible, because he had to leave for Melbourne to further his studies. He asked me to be his girlfriend, but I didn't answer him. What's going to happen after he leaves? We knew each other too short a time to be committing to a relationship, much less a long distance relationship.
The time came when he had to leave. We had a farewell party for him at Nana, and he got so high. Though he was smiling and hugging everyone, especially me..
I could see the sadness in his eyes.
It was quite heartbreaking to send him off at the airport the next day.
The Longest 3 Months
The next 3 months felt so long, I don't even know how we survived it. Thankfully, I was already working by then, so I didn't have much time to think too much. I'm also very thankful that technology is so advanced now. We are always talking through whatsapp / viber / skype. They are a lifesaver!
When he first touched down in Melbourne, he popped the question again, and when I told him I'm still not sure, he sent me a relationship request on Facebook, with a message saying "I will be waiting for you to accept. Maybe it will take months or even years. But just wanna let you know, I will be waiting." Aww.
So 2 months down the road, one night, I logged into Facebook and accepted the request. We decided that our anniversary date would be 7th July though, when he first asked. ♥
The Decision
He came back in November for his 3 months semester break. And while we were happy to finally be able to go out on dates and holidays together, I was making one of the biggest decisions of my life.
He asked me to go over to Melbourne with him, and after lots of thinking and discussions with friends and family, I did.
We were pretty lucky. He was waiting for me to make my decision before buying his flight tickets, and I only made the decision about 1 month before his school term starts. So you can guess how rushed it was trying to settle everything in one month.
And before we knew it, it's been 4 months since I'm here and we're hitting the one-year mark. To celebrate our 1st year anniversary, we will be heading up to Adelaide for a holiday! Yay!
The 1st Year Anniversary
Although it's only a year, it's been a long journey, very unlike the normal relationships too. We had to go through so much, make lots of compromises, and even sacrifices, but it's all worth it! In a way, going through all these obstacles together made us closer too I guess.
If anyone is in a similar situation, don't give up! Nobody said it's gonna be easy, but it will be worth it!
Till then, Happy 1st Anniversary in advance baby! I love you! ♥
